cry baby

iman was a cry baby from the day he was born till he’s 4 months old. i was stressed out. im not a good mother. i don’t even know how to deal with my child. i told myself. and so darling husband and i seek advice and solutions.

we visited his paed a couple of times and paid a bomb for his medication and jabs. darling husband spent more than rm500.00 for each visit. i know darling husband would do anything for his family.

visit after visit, iman still cry a lot. then, we even seek advice from the health officer who comes every week. she checks. she counter checks. and yet, nothing was found not right with iman. he’s fit and obviously physically perfect. all the paed and health officer declared, maybe it was ‘angin’. and so we gave him gripe water accordingly and nothing’s changed.

then, we turned to an ustaz which we engaged. after solat hajat, iman was given air yassin. he didn’t mention that iman’s name was unsuitable for him. but he said that it takes time for iman to adjust himself to his brand new world.

the cry lessens day after day. and it stopped the minute iman turns 4 months.

Syukur Alhamdullilah.

left with no assistance

it was the day when i was left with no assistance. no doubt, mama helped out whenever she’s free from her daily activity with friends. she was with me all the time. mama’s maid also helped out cleaning up the room every single day when i take iman out for a walk just within our compound.

i demanded that our room has to be cleaned up every single day. same goes to our bathroom.

after 2 weeks of paternity leave, darling husband finally returned to his office. and that made iman cried the whole day. he cried when darling left home and still crying till he returned.

what went wrong?

the first few nights

we managed. however, waking up every 2 hours to feed iman was tiring at first. are other babies like him? how did a new mother cope? i asked darling husband. he just smiled and never stops telling me that im coping well with my new ‘assignments’.

im glad that darling husband helped out.

it makes me wonder sometimes, that maybe iman didn’t feel full after 1 feeding before he sleeps. each feeding was just not enough for him. without fail, he wakes up every 2 hours for milk and i get braless every 2 hours feeding him every single night.

slow down, lil boy!

he's just perfect

i could not thank him more. he was all i needed to cope with my new ‘assignments’ that i’ve signed for my whole life. he was there when i needed him. he was also there when iman needed him.

we couldn’t imagine if we didn’t have him when he’s needed the most. he’s a responsible husband. loving. caring. very the! i love him dearly! im sure iman feels the same way too.

i love you, my husband ! so much !

my pantang period is now commenced

we engaged a mak bidan. she’s perfect for me. despite being a strict person, she’s gentle and most importantly, takes good care of my health. we engaged her for 2 weeks and the bill came to rm2000.00. it was hard to book her since she was servicing the brunei royalties when i was about to give birth. but thankfully, i managed to get her with the assistant of my cousin. a few of my cousins and aunts engaged her many times for their confinement and normal massages.

during her services with me, she cooks ‘lip-smacking’ dishes for breakfast, lunch and early dinner, gives me splendid massage for 1 ½ hours daily, bengkung-ed me, assisted me in bertanggas everyday, she bathe me daily, washes my hair every 3-4 days, provided me with lulur services with her own special ingredient and of course bathed iman for me.

it was worth it. i’ll definitely engage her again for my next confinement. but im sticking to my masseur for my monthly routine massage.

the arrival

i was admitted on 4 nov and was discharged on 11 nov. phew! what a long holiday we had.

everybody was eagerly waiting for the VVIP guest to arrive. mama’s maid prepared the room for us, she spring cleaned the room and my closet to make room for iman’s belongings, scrubbed the bathroom, rearranged iman’s toys & toiletries.

we arrived home at almost 2pm. dearest mother in law lead us home. darling husband was always by our side. when we arrive, almost everybody was there. all of them took leave to receive us in shah alam.

my pantang period is now commenced.

now i can breathe

the unwelcome silly jaundice died out after several days. thank god. ok, it’s time to pack our bags and go HOME.

there was a big group of family members escorted us home. thank you all. your helping hands are highly appreciated.